\u0130nsan daima h\u0259yat keyfiyy\u0259tini y\u00fcks\u0259ltm\u0259k bar\u0259d\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr, bunun \u0259sas t\u0259kanlar\u0131ndan birinin t\u0259hsil oldu\u011funu d\u0259rk edir. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 azac\u0131q d\u00fcnyag\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fc, ortabab savad\u0131 olan az\u0259rbaycanl\u0131 ail\u0259sinin \u0259sas h\u0259d\u0259fi \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131n oxumas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n
B\u0259li, t\u0259hsild\u0259 ail\u0259nin rolu vacib faktordur. T\u0259hsil almaq, t\u0259hsilin m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n pill\u0259sini ba\u015fa vurmaq vacibdir. Bu, birm\u0259nal\u0131d\u0131r. B\u0259s, t\u0259hsil almada yaln\u0131z u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n z\u0259kas\u0131 kifay\u0259t edirmi? \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259, yox!<\/p>\n
Ail\u0259 faktoru – bunu unutmaq olmaz! U\u015faq ilk t\u0259rbiy\u0259sini ail\u0259d\u0259 al\u0131r. O, 6 ya\u015f\u0131na q\u0259d\u0259r valideynl\u0259rinin, n\u0259n\u0259 – babas\u0131n\u0131n \u0259traf\u0131nda olur . Loru dild\u0259 des\u0259k, onlar\u0131n t\u00f6kd\u00fckl\u0259rini y\u0131\u011f\u0131r. T\u00fcrk psixoloqlar\u0131n\u0131n ara\u015fd\u0131rmalar\u0131na \u0259sas\u0259n, hans\u0131 u\u015faqlar ki , \u0259rk\u0259s\u00f6y\u00fcn , h\u0259r dediyi laz\u0131ml\u0131- laz\u0131ms\u0131z edil\u0259ndirs\u0259, onlar m\u0259kt\u0259b\u0259 ba\u015flayanda ist\u0259diyini ed\u0259 bilm\u0259diyi \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259r ya\u015fay\u0131r, aqressiv , davakar olur, \u0259ksin\u0259 problemli ail\u0259l\u0259rin u\u015faqlar\u0131 y\u0259ni valideynl\u0259ri t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n diqq\u0259t\u0259 al\u0131nmayan u\u015faqlar is\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259qapan\u0131q , \u00e7\u0259king\u0259n , \u00f6zg\u00fcv\u0259nsiz qal\u0131rlar. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 t\u0259hsilli \u00f6vlad\u0131 olmaq ist\u0259y\u0259n valideynl\u0259r ilk n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259y\u0259 \u00f6zl\u0259rind\u0259n ba\u015flamal\u0131d\u0131rlar. Havay\u0131 yer\u0259 deyilm\u0259yib: \u201c\u018fg\u0259r \u00f6vladlar\u0131n kobud v\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259sizdirs\u0259, bunu \u00f6z valideynl\u0259rind\u0259n v\u0259 ya birlikd\u0259 ya\u015fad\u0131qlar\u0131ndan \u00f6yr\u0259nib\u201d.<\/p>\n
U\u015faq t\u0259rbiy\u0259si , u\u015faq psixologiyas\u0131 \u00e7ox h\u0259ssasd\u0131r. \u018fg\u0259r d\u00fczg\u00fcn diqq\u0259t yetirilm\u0259zs\u0259, sonras\u0131 gec ola bil\u0259r. \u0130ndi is\u0259 g\u0259lin valideynl\u0259rin t\u0259hsilli , se\u00e7il\u0259n etm\u0259k ist\u0259dikl\u0259ri \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131n t\u0259rbiy\u0259sind\u0259 yol verdikl\u0259ri n\u00f6qsanlara baxaq.<\/p>\n
Hara gedir\u0259ms\u0259, qohumlara , qon\u015fuya, dosta , tan\u0131\u015fa ad\u0259t\u0259n bu s\u00f6z\u00fc e\u015fidir\u0259m : \u201cAy bala get d\u0259rsini oxu!\u201d<\/p>\n
Bir d\u0259f\u0259 g\u00f6rm\u0259dim deyil\u0259 ki , ay o\u011ful, ay q\u0131z, bir az istirah\u0259t el\u0259.<\/p>\n
Bir d\u0259f\u0259 \u015fagirdl\u0259r aras\u0131nda sor\u011fu apar\u0131rd\u0131m. Suallar i\u00e7\u0259risind\u0259 m\u0259n\u0259 maraql\u0131 olanlardan biri d\u0259 \u201c G\u00fcnd\u0259lik d\u0259rsl\u0259riniz\u0259 v\u0259 istirah\u0259tiniz\u0259 n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r vaxt ay\u0131r\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z ?\u201dsual\u0131 idi.<\/p>\n
Ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m cavablarda istirah\u0259t dem\u0259k olar ki, s\u0131f\u0131ra b\u0259rab\u0259r idi. \u00dcmumi \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 des\u0259k, u\u015faqlar\u0131n \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259tinin \u00fcmidi \u015f\u0259nb\u0259 v\u0259 bazar imi\u015f, o da valideynl\u0259ri bir \u2013 iki saatl\u0131q icaz\u0259 vers\u0259…<\/p>\n
Ara g\u00fcnl\u0259rd\u0259 is\u0259 bel\u0259 \u015fans yoxdur. Paytaxtda v\u0259ziyy\u0259t daha \u00e7\u0259tindir. Yaz\u0131q u\u015faqlar\u0131n \u201cg\u00fcn\u00fc \u201c yoxdur. D\u0259rsd\u0259n g\u0259l\u0259n kimi t\u0259l\u0259m \u2013t\u0259l\u0259sik hans\u0131sa kursa ( x\u00fcsusi il\u0259 dil kurslar\u0131 d\u0259bd\u0259dir ) , getm\u0259lidir , idman\u0131n d\u0259bli n\u00f6v\u00fc il\u0259 m\u0259\u015f\u011ful olmal\u0131d\u0131r , musiqiy\u0259 getm\u0259lidir. Bunlarla yana\u015f\u0131 d\u0259rsl\u0259rini g\u00f6z\u0259l oxumal\u0131, birincil\u0259rin birincisi, liderl\u0259rin lideri olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Valideynl\u0259rinin ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 uca etm\u0259lidir, dala\u015fmamal\u0131, d\u0259hlizd\u0259 qa\u00e7mamal\u0131, d\u0259c\u0259llik etm\u0259m\u0259li bir s\u00f6zl\u0259 \u201c n\u00fcmun\u0259vi \u201c olmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n
B\u0259zi valideynl\u0259r el\u0259 bilir ki, \u00f6vlad\u0131 m\u0259kt\u0259b\u0259 getdis\u0259, u\u015faql\u0131q hissl\u0259rind\u0259n m\u0259hrum olmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u00d6vlad\u0131 m\u0259kt\u0259bd\u0259n g\u0259l\u0259n kimi yem\u0259k yedi, v\u0259ssalam, ancaq d\u0259rs oxumal\u0131d\u0131r; \u00e7\u00f6l\u0259 – bay\u0131ra \u00e7\u0131xmaq olmaz, oyun oynaya bilm\u0259z. Maraql\u0131s\u0131 odur ki, u\u015faq d\u0259rsl\u0259rini haz\u0131rlasa bel\u0259, yen\u0259 d\u0259 bu imkan ona verilmir, \u201dt\u0259krarla\u201d, \u201dsabah\u0131n d\u0259rsl\u0259rin\u0259\u201d haz\u0131rla\u015f v\u0259 s. Y\u0259ni yer-g\u00f6y da\u011f\u0131lar, lakin u\u015faq u\u015faql\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan istifad\u0259 ed\u0259 bilm\u0259z.<\/p>\n
\u201cFilank\u0259sin u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 b\u00fct\u00fcn g\u00fcn\u00fc k\u00fc\u00e7\u0259d\u0259di ,avarad\u0131r, bu da k\u00fc\u00e7\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7\u0131x\u0131b avaralanacaq\u201d, deyib \u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 haqq qazand\u0131ranlar da olur. Valideyn yaln\u0131z bir \u015feyi fikirl\u0259\u015fir ki, \u00f6vlad\u0131m universitet\u0259 girib t\u0259l\u0259b\u0259 olmal\u0131, ali t\u0259hsil almal\u0131d\u0131r. H\u0259tta 5\u2013ci sinifd\u0259 oxusa bel\u0259 indid\u0259n deyirl\u0259r ki , h\u0259kim olacaq. Olsun , kim n\u0259 deyir ki, amma icaz\u0259 verin, vaxt\u0131 g\u0259l\u0259nd\u0259 bu bar\u0259d\u0259 fikirl\u0259\u015f\u0259k. U\u015faqlar\u0131 bu q\u0259d\u0259r y\u00fckl\u0259m\u0259k olmaz !<\/p>\n
Bir \u015fagird etiraf\u0131…<\/p>\n
Bir d\u0259f\u0259 \u015fagirdiml\u0259 s\u00f6hb\u0259t edirdim, dedi, m\u00fc\u0259llim, evd\u0259n icaz\u0259 vermirl\u0259r k\u00fc\u00e7\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xma\u011fa… Ancaq b\u0259han\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259 evd\u0259n \u00e7\u0131x\u0131ram; gah deyir\u0259m, d\u0259rsin yerini bilmir\u0259m ,ya kitab\u0131m\u0131 sinif yolda\u015f\u0131ma verir\u0259m gedir\u0259m kitab\u0131 g\u00f6t\u00fcrm\u0259y\u0259, b\u0259z\u0259n d\u0259 q\u0259l\u0259mimi gizl\u0259dib, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr\u0259m q\u0259l\u0259m alma\u011fa. He\u00e7 n\u0259 b\u0259han\u0259 ed\u0259 bilm\u0259y\u0259nd\u0259 is\u0259 girir\u0259m ota\u011fa guya d\u0259rs oxuyuram ,anam da qap\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131r ki, kitab qar\u015f\u0131mdad\u0131, el\u0259 bilir, d\u0259rs ouyuram. Ancaq \u0259slind\u0259 ax\u015fam yatmaq vaxt\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6zl\u0259yir\u0259m.<\/p>\n
Valideyn bununla n\u0259y\u0259 nail oldu? – oxuma\u011f\u0131 sevm\u0259y\u0259n, yalan\u00e7\u0131 u\u015fa\u011fa… D\u00fczd\u00fcr , \u00e7ox zaman bu c\u00fcr \u201coxu , oxu\u201d t\u0259nbehl\u0259ri effekt verir , u\u015faq b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcb g\u00f6z\u0259l h\u0259kim ,m\u00fch\u0259ndis olur, lakin xo\u015fb\u0259xt u\u015faql\u0131\u011f\u0131 olmur ax\u0131!<\/p>\n
B\u0259z\u0259n, h\u0259kiml\u0259r aras\u0131nda bir aktyor h\u0259v\u0259si, m\u00fc\u0259lliml\u0259r aras\u0131nda bir musiqi\u00e7i \u00fcr\u0259yi g\u00f6r\u00fcrs\u0259n. Bu vaxt\u0131 il\u0259 fikri soru\u015fulmadan yerin\u0259 q\u0259rarlar verilmi\u015f u\u015faq olmadan b\u00f6y\u00fcm\u00fc\u015f t\u0259hsillil\u0259rdir.<\/p>\n
H\u0259\u0259, bir qrup da var, yuxar\u0131dak\u0131n\u0131n tam \u0259ksi… U\u015faqdan x\u0259b\u0259ri olmayan \u201cOxu\u201d dem\u0259k \u0259v\u0259zin\u0259, \u201c \u0259\u0259, oxuyanlar\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fck d\u0259 , m\u0259n onlardan yax\u015f\u0131 ya\u015fay\u0131ram \u201c dey\u0259nl\u0259r , v\u0259 ya ail\u0259 probleml\u0259ri, sosial durumlar\u0131 \u00fcz\u00fcnd\u0259n \u00f6vlad\u0131na vaxt ay\u0131rmayan , onun t\u0259hsili , t\u0259rbiy\u0259si il\u0259 maraqlanmayan v\u0259 yuxar\u0131dak\u0131lar\u0131n \u00f6vladlar\u0131na misal \u00e7\u0259kdikl\u0259ri \u201cfilank\u0259sin u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 kimi k\u00fc\u00e7\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 qalmaq ist\u0259yirs\u0259n \u201c c\u00fcml\u0259sinin canl\u0131 n\u00fcmun\u0259l\u0259ri . Bu da ba\u015fqa b\u0259lad\u0131r …<\/p>\n
\u0130ndi fikirl\u0259\u015fir\u0259m hans\u0131 daha yax\u015f\u0131d\u0131r ? He\u00e7 biri \u0259lb\u0259tt\u0259 ki! H\u0259r \u015fey \u00f6z d\u00fczg\u00fcn ayarlanm\u0131\u015f miqdar\u0131nda g\u00f6z\u0259ldir. Art\u0131ql\u0131q da , \u0259skiklik d\u0259 balans\u0131n pozulmas\u0131na , f\u0259sadlar yaranmas\u0131na s\u0259b\u0259b olur. Haz\u0131rlanan \u201c m\u0259hsul \u201cis\u0259 canl\u0131 oldu\u011fundan korlanan zaman n\u0259 d\u0259yi\u015fdirm\u0259k, n\u0259 d\u0259 geri qaytarmaq olur. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 \u00fcz\u00fcm\u00fc valideynl\u0259r\u0259 tutub deyir\u0259m: U\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 dinl\u0259yin, ist\u0259kl\u0259rini, sevdiyi, maraq g\u00f6st\u0259rdiyi \u015feyl\u0259ri \u00f6yr\u0259nin . \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc onlarda tamamlama\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmay\u0131n , etm\u0259yin ki , onlar da yar\u0131m\u00e7\u0131q qal\u0131b \u00f6z u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131 korlamas\u0131nlar. Bir d\u0259 ki, he\u00e7 n\u0259yin balans\u0131n\u0131 pozmay\u0131n . Dahi Nizami g\u00f6z\u0259l deyib :<\/p>\n
Bir ici safl\u0131\u011f\u0131 varsa da suda ,<\/p>\n
Art\u0131q i\u00e7il\u0259nd\u0259 d\u0259rd verir o da !<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
\u0130nsan daima h\u0259yat keyfiyy\u0259tini y\u00fcks\u0259ltm\u0259k bar\u0259d\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr, bunun \u0259sas t\u0259kanlar\u0131ndan birinin t\u0259hsil oldu\u011funu d\u0259rk edir. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":259,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[37,36],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-258","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-bas-redaktor","category-manset"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/rubin.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/258","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/rubin.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/rubin.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rubin.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rubin.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=258"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/rubin.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/258\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":260,"href":"https:\/\/rubin.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/258\/revisions\/260"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rubin.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/259"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/rubin.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=258"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rubin.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=258"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rubin.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=258"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}